…hanging,

We just hang together with no particular agenda. It's loose, it's casual, it's informal.

…talking,

We want to feel comfortable saying what's on our minds. Sometimes we have a guest speaker, sometimes we discuss important stuff about relationships and being men.

…laughing,

Sometimes we just have a good time enjoying good humor. There is an understanding that the fun is good-natured and not at anyone's expense. Here, respect is given and expected, and there's no room for gossip.

…playing,

We like to play games together. Some nights we watch a movie. There are always refreshments. someone will bring in his latest kitchen creation, and we all get to sample the results...good or bad!

…sharing,

We work to develop a real feel of sharing. When we accept without judgment, then we can share our feelings without fear.

…caring,

We like one another, it's as simple as that. By caring about each other, we grow more comfortable with ourselves and learn that there are men who think we matter because we think they matter.

…celebrating,

We recognize that we only go around once, and we choose to make the orbit something special. The group is a safe space to be who we are, experience new things, and to be happy doing it.

…being…

The old saying holds true here: “Want a friend? Be a friend.” We create the safe space we want to be in. We work to be the men we want to have as friends.

About This Week

"A must-see"

“The Butch Factor”

Wednesday, March 10

(note early movie starting time)

6:30 pm

“If the guys only see one movie this year, tell them they should see this movie.” This coming Wednesday, we’ll watch one real sleeper of a movie…and yes, one all of us should see.

Don’t let the title fool you. It is not about being butch, it is about us. All of us…the butch among us, the fem, the “I’m-just-me,” the tall, short, hot, cool, young or older, out, not, differently-abled, or just different. The flick introduces us to some of the most interesting men you will meet all year, and we walk away with a really good understanding of our community and ourselves. It is no exaggeration to quote one member who has seen it: “…see this movie.”

(Because this is an independent “indie” flick, we regret that it is not subtitled. Nevertheless, it is an important film for all of us. It’s also just plain entertaining.)

About Last Week

Last Wednesday night was a whole lotta nothing. Nothing but sitting around socializing, playing, chatting, joking, and munching great snacks from the Roys (yup! both of ‘em), Walter, Bob, and others. After a pretty hectic couple of months of activities, the Rainbow Club fundraiser, moving into our new spaces, creating the Red Ribbon Library Café, and a terrific Grand Opening, we needed a night to just sit, take a breather, and share what’s going on in our lives. We had no agenda, no topic, and nothing planned, but we did share the breaking news (see “History…” below). Guys arrived before 5, and the last of us left after 10…the Library has become a really comfortable place for lots of us to settle in with a book, a conversation, a cup of coffee or soda, and our community.